How to read the signs of a lying partner

Are you being lied to?
First thing's first . . .listen to your instincts!

Knowing whether you are being lied to or not, does not require mind reading or psychic power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be determined by a person's behavior, and if you pay attention to these behaviors, you will be able to have a better idea of whether you are being lied to or not. The most important thing you should always remember to do however is to trust your instincts. If you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in good touch with their instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to believe that their partner would deceive them in any way. Staying in touch with your instincts will help guide you in the right direction.
Though instincts are a great help, they can be tricky. Majority of the times, your instincts will not lie to you, but there are times when your instincts can be influenced by your fears and insecurities. For example, you may already have fears of being cheated on, therefore you may feel that your partner is lying to you and cheating on you, when in fact he or she may be telling you the truth and completely faithful to you. This is why it is essential to understand the behavior of a liar, so that you can define the difference between really catching on to a liar, or just being paranoid that your partner is lying to.
Watch the Body Language
One important thing to remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes in the way your partner moves (or does not movie) his/her arms, hands, head and the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she is telling the truth. Since he/she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior automatically changes because they are now trying to act truthful, instead of actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you. There is a fear that you will see through him or her if there is eye contact, so eye contact will be avoided. Whether you realize it or not, your body also communicates when you talk. When you are enthusiastic about telling your partner something and are telling the truth, you will move your hands around and will look into his/her eyes to make a connection. If your partner is lying however, he or she will tense up, will most likely tone down on the hand movement and eye connection and will seem different than other times. If your partner is the type to still move his/her hands around even when he/she is lying, then pay attention to the timing of the movements. Timing is everything and can define the difference between the truth and a lie. When a person is telling the truth for example, his/her hands (and whatever body movement he/she does) will move at the same time when telling you something. When he/she is lying however, the body language will be off and will usually come shortly after he/she has told you the lie. This is because they have to think about acting natural, and this thinking causes them to be off key.
Last but not Least: Clearing of the throat, touching him or herself often and saying “Umm”
Another sign of a lying partner is if he/she touch his/her nose or face a lot while talking to you. They will feel nervous about telling you lies and will want to occupy their hands somehow as a way to cover up their lie, such as touching the nose, rubbing their eyes and so on. Your partner may even clear his or her throat more than usual when talking to you, look away a lot and/or say "umm" a lot when lying to you. They are using these as time killers so they can think of how to tell you the lie in the most convincing way possible. These are just some of the signs of a lying partner and are the most common signs. Remember, it is always important to trust your instincts first. If you feel that your partner is lying to you, start paying closer attention to his/her behavior and if there are any changes, then you will be able to catch on to the lies better and can further investigate from that point. Receive Love Advice and Professional Help.

Steps to Saving your Relationship & Marriage

There are times when a relationship reaches a point where either you, your partner or both of you feel that you can no longer proceed with your relationship. Though this may be so, the two of you still have a connection and really do want to make your relationship work, but do not know exactly how to approach the rescue. If your relationship is going through a rocky period, but you do not want to lose your partner and wish to make things better and continue to build a strong bond together, then consider the following steps to save your relationship:
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1. Acknowledge the Reasons for your Rocky Period. Most of the times, couples break up because they are having problems or feel they can no longer get along, but never really acknowledge what the true problem was. It is important that you both know what the root of your conflicts are so that you both see a clear picture of what is going on and where it all came from and why.
2. Be Rational, Reasonable & Calm. When a couple is experiencing conflicts and hard times, there all kinds of emotions flying around, which can cause one or both of you to act irrationally, and say or do things that will only worsen your already frustrating situation. Though it can be very challenging, it is essential that you make a real effort to stay calm and think rationally, as well as speak rationally. Your partner may be acting completely uncooperative, and that is exactly when you need to take charge of the situation and make sure that things do not get out of hand. Be patient and hear everything your partner has to say before you take your turn in speaking. Make sure you do not say things that you will regret later.
3. Use Space to your Relationship's Advantage. If your rational, reasonable and calm approach does not work and you notice that the two of you are getting nowhere at the current time, then take some time apart. It may be hard for you to do and go through, but it really would be doing your relationship good. Many people get overly emotional when they are having problems with their lovers and want to work out their problem right away and do will not leave their partner alone until they do, but this id definitely the wrong way to go about it. The only thing that will happen is frustrating your partner more, making him or her feel more pressured and therefore pushing your relationship further back instead of forward. Take some time apart so that you both have the space to think on your own and set your emotions and thoughts in order.
4. Agree to Disagree. The next time you and your partner feel ready to attempt another rational discussion, be sure to agree to disagree first. It is important that you both remember that although you may be one as a couple, you are still both very much individuals with your own thoughts and beliefs about certain things. Make an agreement that being different does mean you both are incompatible, but what it does mean is that you are both unique in your own ways and will respect your differences and use those differences as a way to better your relationship instead of trying to change each other.
5. Find a Middle Ground. There are probably some things you would prefer your partner not do and vice versa, but the fact of the matter is, you cannot change your partner's personalities or hobbies. What you must do is find a middle ground where you both feel more secure and comfortable with certain situations where you can both trust each other and feel that your relationship is safe from any damage or harm.
6. Work as a Team. Saving a Relationship and maintaining it requires effort from both of you, not just one of you. If your partner shows no interest or effort in making your relationship work, it would be best to leave him or her alone until he or she figures out just how important saving the relationship is. Sometimes the results will be painful for you and they will not want to have a relationship anymore. However, it could very well be that they realize how important sharing their life with you is, and will eventually come to you-ready to give full cooperation in mending your wounded relationship.
7. Patience is Key. Do not panic! Relationships are very fragile when they are going through a rocky period and cannot be repaired in a day. Do not feel afraid or depressed if things do not go at a pace of your expectation. There is no spell or psychic who can predict your future or make things better. The only thing that will give you real and honest results is time, patience and effort. If you truly want this to work out, then it will be worth the wait. Keep in mind that no matter what happens, you did your best and will survive regardless of what the ending results are.
8. Take it Slowly. Once you and your partner have smoothed things out, be sure to take things slowly. Rushing back into things can make your relationship an easy target to the same problems that caused your rockiness in the first place. Have a serious conversation together about what happened and work together on how you can prevent the same conflicts in the future and/or how you can handle it differently in the future if it does come to surface again. If the two of you agreed to stay together, then there is no need to rush. No of you is going anywhere.

Are you ready for Marriage?

It is the event we all dream about: our wedding day. We all picture ourselves eventually settling down with the perfect partner and build a strong and wonderful married life together and even create a family. There is a lot more to marriage besides the romance and love you feel for one another. A good and healthy marriage requires effort and team work. The both of you will enter the marriage together and therefore will have to continue to precede the marriage together. Before proposing or setting that date, take time to sit down with yourself first and ask yourself the following questions:
What makes this Person the One?
Obviously your first answer will be because you love him or her. That is not the question. The question is, what makes this person, out of all the other relationships you have been in, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? It is important to make a mental list on this, to prevent yourself from entering a marriage for the wrong reasons. An example of a wrong reason would be marrying because you feel that time is running out for you. Do not pressure yourself or allow others to pressure you with the idea that you are getting old and may never have another opportunity to get married.
Prepared to play the Wife or Husband role?
Before you get too excited and jump into any marriage, first ask yourself if you are ready to be a wife or husband. Being a spouse is different than being a boyfriend, girlfriend or fiance. It requires new and more responsibilities and a lot more attention. Its not that you cannot continue to be independent, but you will have to share everything and everyone that is a part of your life if you want to have a trusting and open marriage.
Ready for a financial challenge?
Being married is not like dating where you cover the dinner bill or pay for the movie tickets. It involves new and more expensive bills. This is a subject you should discuss with your partner so that there are no unpleasant surprises later. Whether the both of you work or one of you stays at home, it is essential that you know ahead of time of how you plan to handle all financial challenges, including insurances and emergencies.
Can you stay committed and faithful?
You need to be sure that you have all your curiosities about other people out of your system. If you love your partner but still wonder how it would be to see other people, than you probably should wait to have the wedding a little later down the road. In fact, if you really feel the need to see other people, you should not be afraid to share it with your partner. Tell him or her that it has nothing to do with your love for them, but you need to see if this chapter is closed for good. Being able to commit and stay faithful is one of the biggest things that will keep your marriage together.
Can you live with his/her lifestyles?
If you do not already live together, then really pay attention to your partner's habits and way of living. Though you cannot know everything there is to know about a person, it is good to get an idea. If he or she has certain habits that drive you crazy, it can be worked out with effort on both your parts. However, if you feel you can never get along with certain things, then perhaps the two of you should continue dating and getting to each other before making any big decisions.
These are only some questions you should definitely find answers to before getting married. If you are confused on any of them or cannot find an answer, then do not get married until you do. If you want a marriage that will be happy, healthy and last forever, you should never involve yourself in a marriage until you decide you are truly ready for it.
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When Your Partner Constantly Checks out other People

 Dealing with a Wandering Eye
It’s no secret that we will all encounter other people we find attractive- and we will look. It is only natural to look at someone who appeals to you and there is no need to feel guilty about it, for it is in no way being unfaithful or unloving to your partner.
But what if you have a partner who is constantly checking other people out? Is there such thing as looking “too much”? Is it disrespectful to you and the relationship?
While finding other people attractive is normal and part of human nature, there is a way to go about it and not go about it.  When a person is on his or her own, he or she can feel more free about looking at someone else, without worrying about anyone feeling hurt by it. When one is with their partner however, it would be best to try and be discreet about checking someone else out. A quick glance is harmless, but if a partner is checking someone out in a way that is in the form of staring, exchanging smiles or undressing them with his or her eyes, it then become disrespectful their partner and the relationship. This can make their partner feel hurt, upset, disrespected and even unattractive- which can unnecessarily lower their self-esteem.
When a Wandering Eye becomes a real problem…
Checking other people out is usually harmless if done casually every now and then. It can become a real problem when it is done constantly though. If your partner is more occupied checking other people out rather than focusing on his or her time with you and  admiring you, then it could be a sign that your partner is losing interest in the relationship and you should start paying attention to other signs and behaviors that can help you figure out what is really going on.
What you should do about it…
If you have a partner with a wandering eye and are tired of it, then it is time for communication! There is no shame in letting your partner know that you feel hurt and upset by his or her behavior. After all, a relationship is about being open and honest with each other and your partner should care about your feelings and want to make you happy. This is not about you being immaturely jealous either- it is about you claiming the respect you feel you deserve from your partner (the same kind of respect you partner would expect from you). So let your partner know that his or her constant wandering eye is upsetting you and makes you feel disrespected and you are not okay with it. If your partner truly cares, then he or she will make a real effort to stop checking other’s out in front of you, or at least keep it under real control so you do not feel so disrespected. If the wandering eye continues after you pour your heart out about it, then your partner has shown you how important your feelings are to him or her and you should then decide if you wish to continue putting up with it or not.

Type Of Commitment

For many of us commitment means getting married and staying together forever until we no longer exist.
The idea of commitment has changed over time though, and many people avoid getting involved with such an idea. Commitment covers different areas and it is essential that you know what you wish to commit to and if the person you are interested in, feels the same. There are several different types of commitments.

Emotional commitment
An emotional commitment is when you are there for you partner whenever he or she needs you and they are there for you as well. You make each other first priority in your lives and stay together through the bad times and even make certain sacrifices
Differences commitment
A differences commitment is when you commit to each other's differences and respect them. You agree to disagree on things, without letting it blow out of proportion. You accept each other's personalities without ever attempting to change your partner. Although these are all separate commitments, they can all combine, which is what most people are looking for when they are trying to find a partner.
Sexual commitment
A sexual commitment is when the both of you agree to perform sexual activity only with one another or if the two of you agree to involve other people.
Some people may even agree to sleep with others without the other involved, as long as they inform each other about it.
For many of us commitment means getting married and staying together forever until we no longer exist.
Understanding why you want a commitment will make things clear for you and your partner. Many people often wish to commit for the reason that they feel it is a pattern they must follow. They feel they will be judged negatively if they do not eventually commit fully to a person.
Do you want a commitment because your parents are pressuring you?
Or do you truly wish to settle down and strengthen your relationship?
No matter what situation your relationship is in, understanding and keeping the commitment can be confusing, misleading and disappointing. It can also build an extremely strong and loving bond if the two of you met at an agreeing level.

Why People fall in love

Hey guys……..

Let me guess why we all fall in love with someone special.....<3

For spending time with someone else……Or for the love Kisses…..May be for the Love gifts…or it can be because of warm hugs… ‘Oh,I really love that’  hm , I guess you are thinking the same…..i know I know…..So what is the reason behind your love story…

If I talk about the genuine reason that it should be because of  “make yourself complete by falling in love with your soul mate”. With whom you can share your feelings, your troubles, your naughty ideas, your happiness. Who can make you happy when you are so tensed by doing silly pranks… who will write love quotes for you or send you the romantic love sms with the text  “I love you Baby” ,  “love you shona” , “luv u sweet heart”. After a one fight you thinks love hurts or start sending love hurts sms to your chum. Love with the small fights : This is the complete package you will get after falling in love .

Thats love

I miss the feeling of being COMPLETE, 

Although there is nothing at all missing in my life..

I miss that 1 special hug that could ease all d tension & grief..

Although I have innumerable people who genuinely support me in times of NEEDS..

I miss that one awaited call or text during the day

Although my phone does not stop ringing until its battery gives away..

I miss the feeling of being the most special person in some once life

Although there are people who say I am special for them

Its not often that I get this feeling …

But when I do I realize what I am missing in my Life ….

&

that’s LOVE